“He never appreciates my work! He said that my work can be done by someone inexperienced with the same quality, I can’t continue work with him!”, my friend said. He was talking about his boss. I asked, “do you want to resign?”, He answered “I can’t, nowadays jobs are hard to find. Before my current job I spent a whole year seeking a job, before it I was working in another company that was much worse than my current one”. I asked him, “Do you think he needs to fire you?”. My friend replied: “I believe he does not want to do, there is no backup for me so he needs me”. I asked again, “Are you trying to improve your skills to be able to find a better job?”. My friend astonished me and said, “No I need no training or courses, I already have good skills and don’t need do anything more”.

You are good and your boss is very bad! As my friend keeps complaining several times across the last few days, I discovered the problem and strongly said to him, “Please get out from this trap, stop complaining and do something useful. Please don’t convert your disappointment with current job to just complaints to the wrong person, please keep this energy and convert it to a continuous and hard work to find a better job or do whatever to increase your job opportunities”.

Complaining only will not progress your life to be better, it will just make your situation worse. Do you like to be a person with double face? Dealing with your boss as if everything is OK, and on the other hand complaining from him to other persons whom can’t help you with your boss.

Please get out from this trap, try to understand your boss, help him to understand you, do your best at work to finish it as fast as you can and as perfect as you can. However if you believe you can’t continue with your boss, try to let him know about your situation friendly. If you believe no way, OK, just do your job as much perfect as you can and search for a new job without complaining.

Sadly with some managers the only way to learn is through employee resign, so be confident he will understand either from you directly or from your resign! Don’t allow your self to be driven into a dead end, you always have a choice about your future.

Bosses are hard to change, something like your neighborhoods. So don’t focus only on negatives and become blind of any positives, sometimes we should look at the full half of the cup. If you can’t continue, and have a chance, do it, if you have no chance keep trying to improve your situation and stop complaining.